Are there any books I might check out for sex with an unusually heavy man? Without getting too graphic, his stomach is so large, we cannot have sex; it just simply cannot be done…therefore other positions are necessary…I need help.
I love your commitment to finding freedom in pleasure despite some technical issues. Being of size doesn’t have to limit your sex life. With a few adjustments, you’ll be on your way to having the intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex life you crave.
Prop Yourself Up
The best props for sex don’t come from a fancy store: you can find them right in your linen closet! I’m talking about pillows and rolled-up towels. Use them to balance, relieve stress on joints, and get creative. Place them are under your head, knees, hips, or anywhere else you need some extra support, comfort, or lift.
Don’t have what you need on hand? Make your shopping trip part of the foreplay. As you debate which sizes and shapes you’ll use where, you’ll want to rush home and put them to use!
Chat with your partner about what positions you want to try—which ones sound fun? Look sexy? Feel good?—and how you can adapt them to work for your body. Need inspiration? Check out my friend Elle’s book, Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life. You also can ask him what words he’d like you to use to describe his belly, as well as if and how he’d like you to touch it. Remember: there’s no single “right” answer here. It’s about what he’s comfortable with and excited by right now.
During sexy times, keep the communication going with these tips.
Don’t Discount Sex Toys
Things like a penis extender sheath can make him longer so that he can reach in different positions. A vibrating penis ring gives you extra stimulation, right where you need it. Sex slings—whether for your body or for the door—let you get into new positions and feel supported in your favorites.