Talking about the g-spot inevitably leads to tonnes of questions. Do all people with vulvas have one? How do I find my-g-spot? Direct my partner to it? How do I orgasm from stimulation there? Are they really that big of a deal? If you’ve ever wondered how to have a g-spot orgasm, this article is for you.
Orgasms come in all strengths and sizes
When it comes to sex, there’s no normal. Only more or less common.
For some vulva-havers, g-spot stimulation results in a super strong orgasm. For others, it really doesn’t do much.
You might have spent some time trying to have a g-spot orgasm and ended up stressed or frustrated. Or, maybe you found that spot—the one that feels different then the rest of your vagina or when stroked repeatedly makes you feel like you have to pee—but the resulting orgasm didn’t wow you.
Now if you’ve had an amazing g-spot orgasm (or 10) OR you enjoying exploring your g-spot, then keep at it!
Read more: This is What an Orgasm Really Feels Like
Categorize orgasms less, enjoy them more
Here’s what we do know about the g-spot. There’s an area on the frontal/anterior/belly button side of the vagina that, for many people, feels good when touched. Maybe it’s…
- the g-spot/urethral sponge/erectile tissue
- part of the internal clitoris
- something else
WHAT it is doesn’t matter.
If exploring how to have a g-spot orgasm feels good, keep at it
If not, stop! And, if you haven’t felt anything yet but are having a blast playing and exploring, keep on keeping on.
G-spot orgasms are still controversial
The g-spot, or Gräfenberg spot, was “discovered” in the mid-1900s by a German doctor. Fun fact: You can also thank this awesome guy for the IUD.
Dr. G was actually researching urethral stimulation when he found this erotic zone inside the vagina, running along the urethra. Since this discovery, the existence of the G-spot has been highly debated and contested and refuted and disproved and reproved and… well you get it.
Oh and for the record: he didn’t name the G-spot after himself. Researchers did this later to honor him.
The g-spot is more of an area than one spot
You’ll notice above that Dr. G described the g-spot as a zone, not a spot. Thinking about it this way makes your life easier (and more pleasurable). Rather than searching for one specific location – x marks the spot and all that – you get to explore and find your spot.
You might find that your g-spot is located just inside your vagina or further in (closer to your cervix). There might be one OMG YES spot or a larger area that needs to be caressed. This is the same as any other body part. For example, the distance between your belly button and the top of your pelvic bone is different than mine.
Read more: How to Find the G-Spot
Everyone’s g-spot likes something different
If you’re trying to figure out how to have a g-spot orgasm, its important to remember that—just like the location and layout vary person to person—so too does the type of sensation they enjoy. Some people are so sensitive, they can come simply from doing their Kegel exercises. Others aren’t sensitive at all. Most people fall somewhere in between.
How to Have a G-Spot Orgasm
Use the right tools
The easiest way to stimulate your g-spot is with a g-spot toy. These are curved up to stimulate the part of your vagina where you g-zone is.
Here are some of our favourites:
- JeJoue G-Spot Bullet – great for g-spot exploration thanks to its small size and powerful vibrations.
- Lelo Gigi – great for beginners as the flat head covers a lot of area.
- Tantus Silk dildo – great for strapping on as well as thrusting. Also doubles as a dilator for folx who deal with pelvic pain.
- We-Vibe Rave – a unique asymmetrical toy that’ll hit all your spots
- We-Vibe Chorus – a wearable vibe that lets you stimulate the g-spot during vaginal intercourse
- NJoy Pure Wand – its weight and deep curve make it great for g-spot massage as well as folx who struggle to find their g-spot and experience orgasm from it.
Try these different motions
- Thrust in and out of the vagina. Try to focus on rubbing along that frontal vaginal wall.
- Tapping different spots on that belly-button side of your vagina.
- Massaging. Use as much pressure as you enjoy when getting a shoulder massage. Yes that much. I (and every other sex educator) recommend the Pure Wand for this.
- Dragging your fingers or a toy along the frontal vaginal wall. Also known as “thrusting while pressing.” The Gigi is great for this.
- Stroking. Make a come-hither motion with your fingers or use a toy and scoop (just like you would with ice cream).
Play with these until you find the one that works—or try them all just because it’s fun! As you try each one, notice which spot(s) feel the best. Then…rinse and repeat.
One quick note: if you have smaller hands, you might have trouble with some of these or reaching all the areas you want. If you’re totally committed to exploring on your own and struggling with this, toys are great extensions of your hands. Otherwise, ask your sweetie to help you out. Make it a sexy date.
You deserve your orgasm, g-spot or otherwise
Soft or strong, clitoral, g-spot, or cervical: all orgasms are fabulous in their own right. Play around with how to have a g-spot orgasm but don’t stress about it too much. When it stops being fun, explore something else. Your pleasure is what really matters—and having a g-spot orgasm is only one way to do that.