Lingerie for Every Body

Anonymous asks

Can you share a roundup of lingerie that won’t make me feel ridiculous?


I’m a big believer in adorning yourself in things that bring you pleasure. Lingerie is one way to do that, showing yourself love with your undergarments and maybe gifting your partner(s) a show, too. 

While that’s great in theory, finding lingerie you love and that loves you back is not always easy. From lack of size inclusion and support to limited colors to all the damn straps (seriously, where do they all go?), lingerie can have an element of cheesiness to it. Thankfully, we’re living in a time where there are more options than ever. We rounded up the best lingerie that won’t make you feel ridiculous—and three tips to find it. 

What to look for when choosing lingerie

Kimmay Caldwell, an undergarment educator and self-love coach, says to look for these three things so that lingerie does not end up feeling ridiculous:

  1. Wear what fits your body. Whether it’s a basic bra or a sexy nightgown, use the number on the tag as information (not a definition) and size accordingly. Wearing something ill-fitting, whether it be too loose and falling off, or uncomfortably tight, leads to feeling less sexy. Wearing something that fits well and feels good leads to feeling confident and comfortable. 
  2. Wear something you love. There’s no harm in trying to please a partner with your lingerie attire, but if their fantasy includes something you find silly or uncomfortable, it could end up being a dud for both of you. Try to find some common ground in what you two find sexy so the lingerie is on your own terms, too. 
  3. Keep it simple. If you’re just dipping a toe into the lingerie world, start with simple, easy to wear items that are less complicated to put on and take off and have a more classic appeal. Try something tried and true like a sophisticated silk chemise, or a beautiful matching bra and panty set. There’s no need to overcomplicate things. Simple is sexy. In fact, “lingerie” implies attire made specifically for sex, or strappy outfits and costumes. But your everyday undergarments can be considered lingerie, too! 

Click here to read the rest including specific lingerie recommendations on Blood + Milk.

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